balance of a relationship & friendships

I have a question for you all: how do you balance a great relationship with your other parts of life?

Four months in and I’m so in love. A little blinded at first but not badly. I’m seeing a great person who I can quite frankly see myself with for many months to come. Now to the difficult part, the part that every relationship struggles with I’m sure.

I love this person. We are good for each other. We cook meals together. Have joined sport teams together. We exercise. We have great sex. We talk. Argue and cry a lot, and figure out how to deal with our problems. I love that I can be 98% myself with this person. That being said of course I want to spend my time with this person, especially when their in all aspects of my life at this point.

I’m in this stage of life where I’ve moved on from my highschool and university lives(thankfully!) but haven’t made a new life with new people in it. My work space is just me and toddlers, let’s be honest. Yes I’ve met some great moms and a few nannies I like but theyre not friends! Let me say that I am defintely an introvert and don’t neccesarily “need” and want to constantly go out with friends. How do I balance friendship with a relationship?

Of course I know it’s unhealthy to spend 90% of my time with the person I love; we are going to drive each other crazy! But does that mean I need to see friends? I am quite happy having me time. Is this wrong?

What if something happens in our relationship; a break up etc? I feel as if I would have no one! My best friend(mommy!) is thousands of miles away, and I only have a few(distant) friends that I could go to. This isn’t good! I’m not complaining of course, as I’m happier than I was when I was single. But I suppose new relationships come with new struggles. I’m sure you people reading this have had similar issues, any advice?

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3 Replies to “balance of a relationship & friendships”

  1. Hey chica, try not to be scared of being alone. Even if you and your SO were to break up, you would still thrive (not saying you will!). You seem like a strong, independent woman who is paving her own way. I think it’s cool to be young & single and perfecting oneself (maybe because I’m single :p). I moved to a new state alone a few months ago and have been in the same boat. I have thoughts like these often but always can all a friend, write a letter, take a walk and meet someone new, or accomplish more tasks that need to get done (sigh the neverending tasks!!!) and feel accomplished and establish self-pride. Nothing wrong with transitioning out of college –where you were SURROUNDED by folks all the time– to transitioning to a slower, more solitary lifestyle.

    Just think of Thoreau~ he spent a year (mostly) on his own and then returned to a more social life style. And he’s Thoreau. Live it up, girl!!

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