the whole home ownership thing 

I just had my birthday, meaning I’m now legal to drink everywhere…woohoo. But anyway this got me thinking about my future a little more than usual. I’ve been thinking and owning a house/my own place is something very appealing to me. I think it would teach me a lot, as let’s be honest I don’t know how to take care of a house or what to do when a leak happens. I’ve just started understanding what a mortage is, and it makes me want to work towards owning something instead of paying rent. I currently pay about $600 for rent every month which is VERY low for where I live. In my mind that $600 would be better spent towards my mortage. Plus I want a home…which I feel like I’m lacking (I live in a house with 5 smelly guys). But a few problems:

1) I live in one of the top two most expensive cities in this country. Seriously, my budget would be $180,000 and all that will get me is a box in the sky(apartment), with about 600sq feet. Painful I know.

2) The market is getting worse, and worse! I’m worried if I wait much longer that there will be no more homes within my budget. This may seem drastic but seriously, a year ago I could’ve got something significantly larger for $180,000.

Do you own a place? Rent? What are the challenges you have faced? Opinions? Do I wait, or buy now? Help!

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What happened in university…

I went to university. The second person in my family after my mom to ever go to university, let alone graduate highschool. I decided to go the same school she had attended.

Maybe I don’t see the point in sitting in front of a teacher with 500+ students, listening to him try to explain a subject. I don’t see where this is going to take me.

Maybe this is because I’m an arts student and there’s that stereotype that most people who get arts degrees work at Starbucks etc. If ONLY I had a sciencey mind, engineering anyone? Well not me.

I like talking to children. I would much rather talk to a toddler than a grown up. Disgusting I know. Plus toddlers are just SO much cuter. Toddlers are curious, loving, and eager to learn.

So wise girl over here decided to “try”(didn’t give it a real effort at all times), earning a degree. I studied Sociology and GRSJ (Gender, Race, Sexuality and Social Justice) for 2.5 years; learning a ton out of the classroom and almost zero in the classroom. What I did learn however was that the education system is a joke…I can sit and “learn” for 4-5 years just to what..? Earn 3 extra dollars an hour? To be able to write Bachelors Degree on my resume? This isn’t my world. I have no interest in earning a degree.

I know there are academic people, but wow am I not one. Or maybe I’m just in denial.  I am not saying in any way that some people don’t thrive and learn a bunch. Absolutely, people with an academic mind who strive for a job that requires a university education will likely flourish in an environment like this.

Despite all of this I am going to apply for another year of school, in early childhood education, which I will hopefully like more than the crap I was previously studying. Maybe you’ve been through this? Do you hate/love school? What are your feelings about this?

Opinion: chuck wagon racing

Also known as horse execution. For those who don’t know, chuck wagon racing looks like this:

 Gongshow, yes? Basically hoards of horses that are tied together pull these wagons around tracks. These horses are roped together in 4’s or 2’s. I know if I was roped to 3 humans and made to run around, that wouldn’t go over well. All our different weights, speeds and our legs moving around, someone would be bound to get hurt. In the horses case, imagine if one wagon hits another, that’s not going to be pretty.

This is dangerous for many reasons. The Calgary Stampede in the prairie city Calgary, Alberta, is one example. 50 horses have died in 20 years. FIFTY. This year alone, 4 animals have passed due to leg injuries. And as you know, if a horse breaks it’s leg, there’s no way it’ll ever heal normally. So you euthanize it.

Yes, animal rights groups are objecting to this(minimally) but HOW on earth hasn’t the Stampede staff cancelled these events? Is it really worth all these horse lives just to entertain people?

Have you seen chuck wagon racing? What are your thoughts on this?

balance of a relationship & friendships

I have a question for you all: how do you balance a great relationship with your other parts of life?

Four months in and I’m so in love. A little blinded at first but not badly. I’m seeing a great person who I can quite frankly see myself with for many months to come. Now to the difficult part, the part that every relationship struggles with I’m sure.

I love this person. We are good for each other. We cook meals together. Have joined sport teams together. We exercise. We have great sex. We talk. Argue and cry a lot, and figure out how to deal with our problems. I love that I can be 98% myself with this person. That being said of course I want to spend my time with this person, especially when their in all aspects of my life at this point.

I’m in this stage of life where I’ve moved on from my highschool and university lives(thankfully!) but haven’t made a new life with new people in it. My work space is just me and toddlers, let’s be honest. Yes I’ve met some great moms and a few nannies I like but theyre not friends! Let me say that I am defintely an introvert and don’t neccesarily “need” and want to constantly go out with friends. How do I balance friendship with a relationship?

Of course I know it’s unhealthy to spend 90% of my time with the person I love; we are going to drive each other crazy! But does that mean I need to see friends? I am quite happy having me time. Is this wrong?

What if something happens in our relationship; a break up etc? I feel as if I would have no one! My best friend(mommy!) is thousands of miles away, and I only have a few(distant) friends that I could go to. This isn’t good! I’m not complaining of course, as I’m happier than I was when I was single. But I suppose new relationships come with new struggles. I’m sure you people reading this have had similar issues, any advice?

dreams; a personal post

Without saying any numbers, I’m young. I’ve had the dream of opening my own daycare for a few years now after realizing it’s not totally impossible for me to achieve. Would it be easy? Of course not, when has opening a business and keeping it running easy? Never. So add children into the mix and you have a recipe for a disaster of many kinds (financial, my sanity, etc etc).

I’d like to think that I’ve somewhat proven to myself that I am able. No, nannying isn’t the same but it’s a lot of the same principles. Some problems of mine are:

Timing: first I would like to get higher education…1-2 years later. Opening a daycare isn’t an overnight endevour, let’s be honest. I would add another 2 years to that for my next points/problems:

Money: of course. It’s expensive and I happen to live in one of the priciest areas on this continent(great!) Buying a house alone would cost me upwards of 1 million dollars, and let’s be honest…I could work until I was 109 and still be paying for that house!

Space: since housing prices are soaring and I would like to stay in this area since my life is here, where does this leave me to open a daycare? I could rent a space, but I find these “retail spaces” so cold, and they often lack outside area which if you’ve read my past post, is VERY important to me.

Reality(?): by the time I figure this all out, earn the money, and start it up…I’ll be wanting a family of my own. Oh well fuck! Of course I can’t plan everything that will happen in the future but I do like having a plan.

Any advice, words of encouragement? Do you run your own daycare? Are you completely clueless in the area but have something to say? Have you opened a business? Tell me I’m crazy if you want! I would love to hear from ALL of you.

Thanks!