The garden season

Ahh it feels good to be back! How are YOU?! I’m eager to hear how all my blog buddies are doing. 

This year has been a cold one so I’m just beginning to plant seeds now! Unbelievable! This week I will be planting: carrots, radishes, beets, bokchoy, spinach, wild flowers, potatoes and spaghetti squash.

Spaghetti squash is a new one to me…I’ve never grown a squash and I’m wondering if anyone can help me out. I hear I need to make a mound of sorts?

Anyway I’ll be posting photos in the coming days. Now I want to hear all about what YOU are growing! Do share xox 🌱🌱🌞

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Book Review Monday

As promised, today I’ll be reviewing two riveting books I read in June. Baby Doll by Hollie Overton and My Husband’s Son by Deborah O’Connor. Happy Independence Day to my neighbors to the south! 🌍📚🍷

Baby Doll by Hollie Overton
Rating: 5/5

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Lily, abducted as a teenager, now has a child named Sky. Together they are being held captive…until one day their captor leaves the bolt to the room unlocked.

At the beginning of the book I hadn’t a clue what to expect since the kidnapped was back with her family within the first few chapters. Usually this wouldn’t happen until the end, so I had no idea what filled the book ahead of me.

Throughout this book I kept thinking how good it was, but how bad it could be if the author went in a certain direction. The author does a good job at capturing the struggles and joys in the characters lives. I enjoyed that this book wasn’t strictly about Lily’s years in captivity, like all (?) books dealing with situations like this. Instead it’s about life after she’s freed and building a new life for herself and her daughter, Sky. Yes, there are parts that were unrealistic and I was quite skeptical that things would play out like that in real life but hey, it’s fiction right?

Overall I loved this book and finished it in 2 days.

My Husbands Son by Deborah O’Connor

Rating: 4/5

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Heidi and Jason…a couple who are brought together by the loss of their children. They met at a conference for parents dealing with this loss. Heidi’s daughter was murdered, Jason’s son was abducted and is still missing. One day Heidi sees a boy that looks just like Jason’s missing son. Interesting plot, right?

My Husbands Son was a good book. Due to the fascinating plot and fast paced nature, the author kept me hooked all the way through. I’ve given it 3 stars stars because I don’t actually LIKE any of the characters in this book; Heidi is strange, Jason is an ass face, Tommy is very creepy, Vicky had no brains…just no depth. I would still recommend reading this one though, because the story line is quite captivating. Until the ending, where I just wanted to hit my head against a wall.

Up next I’m reading Room, which I’ve been excited to read since it came out. I’m very interested to hear from you about these books. Would you read either of them? Have you? What are you reading? Happy reading!

How to Nanny

When I started to nanny, I didn’t have a clue what I was doing. I knew one thing though; I loved children. I didn’t find many resources on nannying, and I didn’t know any other nannies to answer my questions. Three years later, after working for over 5 families, through babysitting and nannying…I’ve learned a lot.

Inspiring me to write this post are a few new nannies/babysitters who are starting out who have tons of questions. I’ll be answering some basic questions and some vital ones as well.

1) “What should I expect on day one, the first day I’m alone with the kids?”

Realistically? Chaos. The kids are going to test you and push you, to see what you’ll do, where you’ll set the limits. They’re probably used to their parents/guardians, teachers or instructors. You don’t want the children to fear you. Likely you just want the kids to like you; this is normal. I made a mistake in my first nanny gig, I was overly nice and the kids started walking all over me, this is NOT OK. So early on, be kind and loving but firm with rules and expectations. If you do this, it’ll make the time you spend with the kiddos so much easier and fun.

2) “I’ve had multiple families offer me jobs…how do I pick?”

This requires you to think about what’s important to you. If the parent prefers you sitting on the couch all day watching TV with the kids but you believe outside time is important…problems could arise. If you hate cooking but the family expects you to make all the meals from scratch, be realistic and honest with yourself. It might be a challenge finding a family that’s a perfect for but in my experience, it’s possible to come close 🙂 One more thing. Of course money is part of it but trust me, you’ll be much happier with the loving family who pays less than with the high paying family who ignores the kids. If you’re anything like me, this will break your heart every time it’s time to leave.

3) “I feel so awkward playing with and disciplining the kids when the parents are around. HELP!”

This is so normal. It still happens to me sometimes. The kid wants milk…do I get it or let the parent do it? You want to be useful, but avoid over stepping. You also don’t want to sit there like a slug. Just be friendly, chat with the parent about what happened during the day. In my experience you don’t want to become best friends with the parents. They are your employers and when money is involved, things could go south.

4) “I spend 48 hours a week with these kids…I love them! Am I allowed to show them how I feel?”

Yes! It’s part of the job; pretty sweet if you ask me. Having a child love you will change your life. But remember once again that they aren’t your kids. You get to leave(the tantrumming monsters) at the end of the day!

5) “It’s a job, but I play with kids all day…what do I wear?”

This is a fairly common question because yes you do want to be professional, but professional as a nanny is a whole lot different than professional in an office setting for example. I’ve worked for numerous families and I’ve never had an issue when I wear my normal casual clothes. I like wearing comfy leggings, tank tops, warm socks and moccasins. Sweet right? Hopefully the parents don’t care since you’re there to take care of the kids and what you wear should not matter. Tip: You have breasts? Put your tits away. Kids know where to find milk…nipples. NO. I was alarmed the first time, so just cover up.

6) “Do I bring my own lunch or do I eat their food?”

This is a good topic to bring up when arranging your employment with your boss. I’ve had families welcome me to eat whatever I want, and others expect me to bring my own lunch. I would suggest asking your employer! Personally I like eating my own food, perhaps not plain pasta or whatever the children decide they want so I bring my own lunch and snacks everyday. Once when a family said help yourself, I was on my period and ate a whole box of crackers with cheese…and ending up feeling SO guilty, I immediately went and replaced the crackers…so keep this in mind when parents say “help yourself”.

7) “I believe kids need a good spank sometimes, but I don’t know the parents dicipline methods…what do I do?”

Another sceniro where you need to talk to your employer. They aren’t your kids, and even though you’re taking care of them…you still need to go by the parents rules. Every family is different and acknowledging this is very important for a good relationship. Most famillies I’ve worked with use “time outs” or “quiet time”, but this varies so make sure to check.

What did I miss? I couldn’t answer all your questions so if you have any needing answering, write to me below in the comments! I am also hoping to hear from parents, any questions for me? What do you think of what I’ve written?  Thanks for reading! 

Writing a book

A lot of work I’m sure, but one of my deepest dreams is to write a book. I haven’t told anyone this, just to protect myself from failure I think. But I’m telling you now!

I tried when I was a teenager, that went as expected, I got too busy and stopped. I’ve read all my life, when I’m not doing anything, you can find me reading a book. Reading will hopefully always be part of my life.

I’m currently reading a book that’s been inspiring me, it’s called The Truth About the Harry Quebert Affair: about an author, a mystery and another author who writes all about it. Seriously, read it if you get a chanceIt makes me want to write. Write a story. But how? I have a laptop but how does somebody actually write a book? By hand? On a computer? Then how does it get edited? What is the process/steps to doing this? I don’t even have a clear idea of a story. But I’m interested to learn what you know! Looking forward to hearing from you all. Thanks for reading!

Indulge in you time 

Today, for the first time in five months I have a weekend day all to myself. No boyfriend, no friends, no family and no commitments. Being a slight introvert…this excites me! I am thrilled to have me time all day, do what I want and just indulge. We all need alone time, time to be independent… Here are my tips for you when you have a You Day.

1. Eat. Eat whatever you want. Go buy the ingredients, cook it, bake it, or go to your favorite restaraunt and eat! I’m still working up the courage to go into a sit down establishment alone and eat but I’m getting to the point of being able to. If you can, do it! Next, you want chocolate? Wine? More chocolate? Good, have some.

2. Do something you love doing alone. For me, that’s thrift shopping. Oh how I love wandering the store looking for clothing that stands out, a book I’ve been wanting to read. And chances are, everything will be under $5. Beautiful. Maybe you like walking, exercising, sleeping, praying, taking photos, well this is your time.

3. Watch whatever you want. I’m generally very opposed to screen time but let’s be honest, it’s gonna happen. I plan to watch some Orange is the New Black, or House Hunters shows. Haha bad tv, I know I know.

Although the past five months have been so busy and filled with fun, I do need some me time. As much as I want to jump my boyfriends bones, it will be good for us to be apart for a day. What do you do on You Days? Do you enjoy alone time or is it something you fear? What would you do for one day if you had absolutely no plans and no one to be with? Looking forward to hearing from you!